“Now I ain’t sayin’ she a gold digger 

But she ain’t messin’ wit no broke, broke…”

Golddigger:  Any woman whose primary interest in a relationship is material benefits. A woman who cares more about a man’s bank account than she does about the man.   The closest male equivalent is a gigolo or boytoy.  (http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=golddigger)

So now that the definition is clarified, do you know one?  Have you come across one?  For the guys out there, doesn’t it just frustrate you when a girl just uses you for your money?  You thought she cared, but all she really did was suck your wallet dry?  You thought she was the down with you but she just wanted to get her newest edition of Coach, Luis Vuitton, Gucci…etc…etc.  For the girls who’ve been accused on being one, isn’t it insulting to think that guys would assume you can’t buy your own stuff?  That you are manipulative  and all you wanted was a free ride?  It sucks and I don’t get it either.  I mean seriously, I don’t get it.  Why is there a negative connotation on being the golddigger?  Why does this term even exist?

Now hear me out on this before you get all excited and start giving me examples on how the last gold digger broke your heart and your bank account.  Guys, why did you spend on your lady?  Think back as to why you dug deep into your pocket to get her that Canadian Goose down jacket?  Did you do it to impress her or her friends?  Did you do it because you thought you were going to get some?  Did you do it because you genuinely cared for the her? Let’s break this down:

• If you spent on her because you had strong feelings for her and was truly inlove with her, then why are you keeping tabs?  If you really just wanted to keep her warm with her new jacket or to make her look good in front of her friends because she’s your princess, why remember how much you lost on her and call her a gold digger?  You willingly paid for it so unless she stole it, then she’s considered a thief and not a gold digger.  When she bailed on you despite all the love you gave her, she left you because she found something better.  Sorry to remind you but she left you for a better life.  It may be because she would rather focus on her career or she might have left you because she would rather pursuit something else and move to another city/province/state/country.  She might have left you to cut-off the drama in her life.  She might even have left you because she found someone else.  For whatever reason it is, she left you for something better…at least in her world it’s the better option.  It shouldn’t matter what happened during the relationship; grieve, accept it and then move on.  Be a real man and have some dignity left in you and leave it alone, rather than calling names.  Seriously, it’s not sexy hearing guys bash others.  Plus, only broke people complain about gold diggers so don’t make it too obvious.  I highly doubt Donal Trump even knows the names of the girls he had and spent money on for some good times.

•  If you spent on your lady because you thought it would open venues and the intention failed, then accept the fact that she’s not attracted to you to thank you in ways you expected.  If you continued to buy her stuff despite the first disappointment, why didn’t you learn your lesson and not move on?  If you did then great, next time, find a better employee.  If you were in the type of relationship in which you know she didn’t really care for you and you continued to buy her stuff, then it’s a business transaction; you get yours and she gets hers.  This is a mutual understanding so there shouldn’t be complaints.  If you feel like you were being ripped off and finally left her, lost cause…move on.  Corporation/companies who lost people don’t go about telling the world that they were fooled by a gold digger.

With that being said, of course this situation is applicable on reversed role, guy simply using the girl for her money.  By no means am I promoting manipulation to gain materialistic things off of your partner, I’m simply confused as to why do we look down on the gold diggers, why is this term even used?  If you’ve ever called someone a gold digger, why?  After reading this, would you still call one as such?

For your listening pleasure:  http://www.youtube.com/embed/6vwNcNOTVzY