At this age, you may not feel pretty because no one is asking you out; except for that one guy who wrote you a letter.  Keep doing what you’re doing because it is better to be unknown than have a history with the guys as “that girl I had fun with”.  Despite the fact that no one seems to pay attention to you, enjoy that drama-free life.  Don’t worry, when you get older, you will be amazed at how much guys are totally into you. Some girls will be jealous of you.  Some girls will even hate you because they’ll think you’re trying to steal their man.  Little do they know, you passed them on and that’s why their man is with them…they settled for the easier catch.  They’re celebrating an anniversary when 365 days ago, their man was still trying to get with you.

When you get older, you will meet a bunch of guys and a few will touch your heart.  Some will mislead you, while some will be your crying shoulder.  You will meet someone special, fall in love with him and share great memories with him.  He will break your heart.

From there you will understand why they call it “broken-hearted”.  It literally feels like your heart has shattered into tiny pieces.  There are times when the pain will be so unbearable that it will be hard to breath.  You will feel alone, like no one could possibly understand the agony that you are going through.  You will cry yourself to sleep.  You will lose your appetite and you will lose your enthusiasm in life.  When you try to take your mind off of things, everywhere you turn, the world will remind you of him.  The songs on the radio, the restaurants you used to go to, the couple walking down the street are all too familiar to you.  You will catch yourself crying from watching a commercial, just because that line they used was “your thing”.  You will miss him.  You will go to the gym to release the tension and lose weight dramatically.  Just when you thought you have moved on, he will come back in your life.

You will get back together with him and for the next four years of your life, you will have a rollercoaster ride with him.  He will continue to break your heart because you let it happen.  You will lose your identity and bend your own morals and values, in hopes of doing anything to keep the relationship going.  Day in and day out, it all just becomes a part of a routine, break-up and make-up.  You will become exhausted, weary then simply numb from it all.  You will hit a wall and decide to walk away for good.  

Eventually, you will meet a guy and he will instil thoughts in you that you should have already known.  He will engrave in your head that relationships end because it’s simply not meant to be.  He will remind you that relationships end not because you didn’t try hard enough.  It’s not your fault.  It’s no one’s fault.  

He will tell you it’s ok to grieve and then you should simply accept it and move on.  He will give you hope and open your eyes that you should never settle.  He will show you that there are guys out there who will treat you with respect.  He will prove to you that your expectations and standards are not too much to ask.  He will show you your true worth.  He will make you feel like a princess that you really are.  You will continue to open your eyes and realize your own mistakes as well.  You will also know how to treat the next one better.

As you move on with your life, you will meet more people you will be wiser.  You’d have learn from your mistake and become more careful in choosing “the one”, for you.  That’s ok, no rush.

Dear 16 yrs old me, I wish I know what is ahead of us.  My future seem to be just as uncertain now as how I felt years ago.  Knowing everything that I know now, I would not alter a single thing that happened all throughout the years.  The stupid decisions I made have thought me lessons in life.  The joys and sorrows made me feel human and alive.  The only advice I will give you is, DO NOT LET YOURSELF GO! 

It doesn’t matter how sad or happy you have become, over-eating not only leads to unattractive figure, it is also unhealthy.  I am currently struggling going back to the state I was because I stopped caring for what I look like.  Please, when you lose all those weight from the break-up, try to maintain that sexy figure.  It’s so hard to go back to that size.  So whatever you do, continue to leave the chocolate bars alone.  Continue the work-out routine and continue to focus on you.  Take care of yourself because no one else will treat you any better than yourself.  That is all.